Often when talking about Z,it’s always more about the things he can’t do, oh he can’t get dressed on his own , he can’t understand questions or oh he can’t talk and answer you back. Yes, he can’t do these things, and I’ve been told I must put a YET at the end of all the things Z can not do.
Ok, you spend a little time with Z and you’ll soon see that he don’t say any words, other than mam. You spend a little longer and you’ll hear sounds. You spend even longer and you’ll see how clever he is. Z is not 3 until October, he’s been doing the 10 piece one slot puzzles since before he was one. This one is a 35 piece puzzle, was new getting out of the box. But he did it, alone. He may have needed a little help with the odd piece but he’s 2! People who see him possible kick off in shops don’t see the way he can get 20 shapes into a sorter, again he was putting them in this time last year, so not even 2.
I was recently having a conversation with N in regards to her son, right, he’s older than Z by 10 years. If you were too look at J he’s a typical teenager, I keep asking her lots of questions! ( poor N! They do get random!) latest one was could J cross a road. The answer is not really, not on his own. So you would see this teenage boy not being able to cross a road, but what you could not see is how he can recite the Latin alphabet, knows all 6 of Henry’s wife’s, and everything that goes with them.
If reading this post you take one thing away its don’t look at Z ( or any other child!) and think, oh he can’t do that or he should be out of nappies by now, or think he should be listening to instructions. You don’t see what he can do. You don’t see him lighting up that room with his smile, when he actually looks at you. You don’t see him match things up, he’s good at that too. He’s growing, maybe not the same way as your child, but he’s getting there. I’m sure if he had the language to tell me how or why he’s doing what he is it would be a damn good answer!